"Just relax"

One of my pet peeves is the advice people give.
I got it when my first husband died too.
Now I get it from some people who know we are trying.

"Just relax and it will happen."
Yeah, that does work for most people.
The first nine months of not preventing and just seeing what happened was relaxed.
I am not one of those women who makes sex clinical.
We still do lingerie.
Sex on the couch.
Afternoon delights.

"Just have a few drinks."
Yeah, we did that too.

Is it hard for people to realize that not everyone gets pregnant right away?
Is it inconceivable that some people do have medical problems in getting pregnant?
And maybe I am one of them.

"Have you tried laying in bed after sex?"
"Have you tried having sex later in your cycle?"
"Have you tried using this brand of lube?"
Yep.
Been there.
Done that.

I am not an idiot.
I am not someone who tried to get pregnant for a month or two and then sought medical help.
I have some known medical issues.

Sigh...